2026-09-17 10:46 UTC
@AnAutieAtUni@beige.party Yes, absolutely. I find it easier with autistic visitors I know well, where I tidy only as much as I feel able and trust they will understand when sometimes I can't.
For visitors that I am not as close with and are not autistic, I feel much more pressure to make things perfect, crushingly so.
I found having a conversation about house tidiness and visitors with trusted friends made it easier, because it turned out we would all be understanding.
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@vicorva@mastodon.art 2026-09-17 10:46
@AnAutieAtUni@beige.party I have one friend (not autistic, though neurodivergent) who has extreme anxiety. She once commented to me that she finds visiting my home much less frightening because it looks relaxed and like she's allowed to relax in it. And that mirrored a feeling I have in pristine homes that I am going to mess it up. That was helpful, too. Allowing my home to look lived-in can make it more comfortable for visitors, not less!